The worst part about being a virgin at 21 is that everyone makes it a bigger deal than I do. The constant questions, “Why did you wait? What are you waiting for?” and nagging opinions “It feels so good/you don’t know what you’re missing”.
-Actually YOU NON-VIRGINS don’t know what YOU ARE MISSING.
Life is not a countdown to when we will all lose our virginity’s nor should it be a competition. And finally when it happens it should not be anyone else’s business but your own. The continuous amazement people have with my virginity is obnoxious. No reason for people to congratulate me or pat me on the back for waiting; not only are you being insulting, you’re belittling the idea that my decision to wait was the ‘wrong’ one. I use to keep it a secret that I was a virgin because I was embarrassed by it. After the age of 16, everyone is spilling their v-card stories and or lying about them. I wish I would have known then, that it was okay to be a virgin and it still is. Unfortunately nowadays the norm isn’t in the virgin’s favor. Even MTV’s new show “Virgin Territory” labels all virgins as being socially awkward and in a rush to lose it. Nobody should be able to convince you or pressure you that your beliefs in choosing how to share your body are incorrect. Respect yourself enough to wait for your perfect moment.
For you NON VIRGINS:
STOP with the questions! No, I am not waiting for marriage and nor am I prude. I am not a virgin because I can’t get anyone to sleep with me nor because I am anti-social.
STOP acting appalled at the fact that I’ve been dating my bf for 8 months and we’ve been abstinent. Sex isn’t everything, you would know that if you had waited.
And last but not least, leave me the fuck alone. Stop bothering me about my personal business. Sorry, that you “WISH YOU WOULD HAVE WAITED” but you didn’t. You chose your genitals over thinking for the future.
I have no control over what people think of me but I have 100% control of what I think of myself.Beth Ditto (via onlinecounsellingcollege)